Category: Opinion

  • A moratorium on the attitude of gratitude

    A moratorium on the attitude of gratitude

    Hi everyone, there is an economic blackout from 11/28 to 12/5 in protest of fascism and corporate greed, so please avoid spending money on those days, as well as avoid streaming services, social media, and AI stuff as much as you can. If you need to buy something, support local small businesses and pay in cash if you can.

    This week is Thanksgiving, a day full of misconceptions and steeped in anti-Indigeneity, even by well-meaning colleagues. I highly encourage everyone read this article “In a season of rampant anti-Indigeneity, here are some things you should and shouldn’t do to be pro-Indigenous” by Chris Talbot, and then donate to Indigenous organizations, movements, and individuals.

    While we’re on the topic of gratitude, every once a while I hear about people preaching about the importance of having an “attitude of gratitude.” Fundraisers will talk about it in the context of always showing appreciation to donors and funders. Leaders will mention it in terms of staff happiness and retention. Self-care experts will tout it as a way to avoid burnout. Gratitude is great and an appreciative approach has been shown to be effective in all sorts of way, so what sort of ugly, no-good, two-bit, ornery curmudgeon would be against it?

    That’s where I come in!

    OK, fine, I’m not against gratitude necessarily. I like getting thank-you notes and texts, and I often write them to people, sometimes to thank them for the lovely thank-you note they sent me. And I like starting and ending my day thinking of things I’m thankful for.

    But like with everything else, oftentimes people advocate for things (especially things that rhyme and are catchy), without really considering the dynamics around them. I don’t like the concept of attitude of gratitude because there’s all sorts of problems with it, including:

    It is often one-sided. Who is expected to be grateful? In our sector, it’s usually the people who need money to do stuff being expected to constantly be appreciative of those who have money. Except for employers being encouraged to be grateful to their team, I rarely see encouragement of those who have more power and resources to be appreciative of those who have less.

    It allows for injustice to be glossed over. Training some people to always be grateful and others to always expect to be thanked means we often pave over deeper and more uncomfortable conversations about wealth hoarding, tax avoidance, stolen Indigenous land, worker exploitation, colonization, slavery, genocide, and other forms of injustice that make our work necessary in the first place.  

    It reinforces notions and feelings around “dependency.” We have a deeply embedded idea in the sector that nonprofits shouldn’t be “dependent” on funders and donors, manifesting in inane questions like “how will you sustain this program what this grant/donation runs out?” The attitude of gratitude just further entrenches this ridiculous idea.

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  • Funders, stop viewing your tedious and paternalistic requirements as nonprofit “accountability”

    Last week, I was in Toronto facilitating a conversation on equitable grantmaking with a group of brilliant colleagues, including several funders and impact investment leaders. During the rise of authoritarianism, it is vital for funders to understand what’s at stake and to act accordingly.

    I reminded the workshop attendees that conservative funders fund five key things: Institutions, politics and politicians, judges and judiciary systems, media and narrative work, and cultural warriors. This is why conservative movements have been running circles around progressives.

    But it’s also HOW they fund that makes them effective. I went through this chart, the Equitable Grantmaking Continuum, which anyone here can access. Feel free to print it out and see how your foundation is doing; or if you’re a nonprofit leader or consultant, mail it to your funders, maybe with a severed stuffed unicorn head Godfather-style for particularly egregious ones.

    The discussion that ensued was lively. However, one question a colleague asked has been sticking with me. I’m paraphrasing: “Sorry, but what about accountability? I mean, we can all move toward being Level 3 funders on that Continuum and give general operating grants and 20-year investments and so on, but we need to talk outcomes and accountability, eh?” 

    This is a question we hear all the time, and I know colleagues who ask it mean well, but it is truly one of the most annoying questions of all time, and I always have to recall a song my kids learned from a children’s show, Daniel Tiger, to help calm myself down when I hear it: “When you feel so mad that you want to roar, take a deep breath, and count to four.”

    Here’s why it’s so annoying:

    It’s condescending and paternalistic: The assumption behind the question above is that if nonprofits weren’t forced by funders and donors to write detailed proposals, budgets, and reports at regular intervals, if they were granted unrestricted funds, they too would be unrestricted in their actions and would just run amok like feral children, with no aims or goals, and it would just be chaos and madness. It must be up to funders then to be adults to keep an eye out on these organizations.

    It’s based on a lack of understanding of how nonprofits operate: Most nonprofits and movements have outcomes they’re working on that are clearly spelled out everywhere, including in grant proposals. Accountability structures are already built into their operations through mechanisms such as annual reports and formal tax filings where they list what goals and outcomes they accomplished and how they spent funding for the year.

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  • Good news roundup: Things to make you feel hopeful this week

    Good news roundup: Things to make you feel hopeful this week

    Hi everyone, I am on a plane heading to New York to speak at the Nonprofit New York conference, and Wi-Fi is very spotty, so apologies for the poor grammar and coherence.

    If you’re free next week, join me and podcast co-hosts Monique Curry-Mims and Valerie Johnson for a live recording of the Philanthropy podcast. Register here.

    The past few months (years) we have all been inundated with terrible news about awful things happening all over the world. While we should continue paying attention to them and act when we can, it’s important to acknowledge that awesome things are also taking place.

    Here are some hopeful and inspiring things below, in no particular order. A lot of this is from Instagram, news sites, and Buzzfeed.

    ·       Last week, the US experienced a blue wave in our elections, which was a welcome and much-needed bit of hope for many of us. Among the left’s victories, Zohran Mamdani scored a decisive victory to become New York’s 111th mayor, beating back not just the right wing, but moderate democrats, and showing that being unapologetically progressive is a winning formula.

    . California passed Proposition 50, which allows Democrats to temporary redraw congressional districts to favor Democrats, and this will significantly help balance out the GOP’s attempt to keep power during the midterms through redrawing districts in Texas to get more Republican House representatives.

    ·       Supreme Court denies revisiting decision on marriage equality. Kentucky county clerk Kim Davis refused to do her job of issuing marriage licenses to gay couple, claiming it was against her religion. Her case risked jeopardizing SCOTUS’s decision that legalized same-sex marriage. By not hearing the case, that decision stands.

    ·       Montana may have found a way for states to curb the effect of Citizens United, a destructive SCOTUS ruling that allowed corporations unfettered power to buy elections.

    ·       Costa Rica runs on almost 100% renewable energy! Meanwhile Scotland in 2022 generated 113% of its electricity demands through wind power; its renewable energy sector sustains more than 42,000 jobs.

    ·       Bus drivers in Okayama Japan have gone on strike. They are still working and driving their routes, but they won’t be accepting payment from passengers! Brilliant!

    ·       Trump is going to UK, where he will be welcomed by a gigantic picture of him with Epstein. Truly, it is a big, big picture, yuge. Thank you, UK activists.

    ·       Burkina Faso has made tremendous progress fighting desertification. It’s Great Green Wall project has created 4 million hectares of forest since 2022. This helps significantly with famines and other problems created by the land drying out.

    ·       The ozone layer is healing and might fully recover, thanks to policies that help decrease the use of chemicals like chlorofluorocarbons (CFSs). Heck, scientists think in 10 or 20 years, it may heal completely.

    ·       The Ocean Cleanup has been tackling the problem of plastic pollution in the ocean by removing plastic and intercepting it before it reaches the ocean. It estimates that with enough support, 90% of plastic floating in the ocean can be removed by 2040.

    ·       Women rule in Namibia! Namibia becomes the first country where top government positions are held by women: Its president Netumbo Nandi-Ndaitwah, VP Lucia Witbooi, speaker of national assembly Saara Kuugongelwa-Amadhila, and secretary general of the ruling party, are all women. 57% of the country’s cabinet is women.

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  • Philanthropic advisors, embrace your role as agents of justice

    Philanthropic advisors, embrace your role as agents of justice

    Hi everyone, you must be as exhausted as I am by the relentless awfulness that’s going on everywhere in the world. But please pay attention to Sudan, where there is a genocide taking place, with thousands recently massacred, including children, and millions displaced and starving. And like with all other genocides, the West is complicit, with the US and other nations supplying weapons to the United Arab Emirates, which backs the terrorist paramilitary force RSF that’s committing horrific atrocities against civilians. Here’s an article on Truthout to give you some context.

    We must also pay attention to the Democratic Republic of Congo (DRC), where millions of civilians are killed and starved. And those of us who are using smart phones, electric vehicles, and AI, which is basically all of us, are complicit, as DRC supplies a lot of the cobalt and other materials needed for us to have these things. Here’s more information.

    I know this is a lot, and I’m also just starting to be educated on these issues. But our governments, our tax dollars, and our everyday usage of technology like smart phones and AI help fuel the suffering and death of millions around the world. Please be vocal about Sudan and Congo, exert pressure on your elected officials to pay attention and act, and donate to local organizations providing humanitarian services. 

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    A few years ago, when I was leading a nonprofit, I was trying to hire a consultant to do something, probably a strategic planning process. One of the candidates asked, “Are you looking for more of a facilitative consultant, or one that’s more prescriptive?” She meant were we looking for a consultant who would help the team reach its own conclusions, or one who is actively providing recommendations about what the org should do.

    I’ve been thinking about this a lot as the field of philanthropic advising has been growing significantly, thanks to the exponential rise of Donor-Advised Funds (DAF) and other wealth-hoarding vehicles. But as this article points out, philanthropic advising is kind of a “Wild West,” with few standardizations or agreed-upon best-practices.

    However, that might be a good thing. We have seen how toxic many of the “best practices” we’ve entrenched in fundraising over the past few decades have been, such as treating donors like heroes and shielding them from difficult conversations about the inequitable origins of wealth. Maybe during philanthropic advising’s nascent stage, we can prevent some of these pitfalls before they gain too much ground.

    One of these pitfalls I see is philanthropic advisors adopting a “facilitative” stance to their work, where they believe their job is just to be a neutral party that’s there to help the wealthy give out money, but they themselves don’t really push an agenda or encourage donors to give to one issue over another. They are just a vehicle connecting donors to what the donors care about.

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    A few years ago, when I was leading a nonprofit, I was trying to hire a consultant to do something, probably a strategic planning process. One of the candidates asked, “Are you looking for more of a facilitative consultant, or one that’s more prescriptive?” She meant were we looking for a consultant who would help the team reach its own conclusions, or one who is actively providing recommendations about what the org should do.

    I’ve been thinking about this a lot as the field of philanthropic advising has been growing significantly, thanks to the exponential rise of Donor-Advised Funds (DAF) and other wealth-hoarding vehicles. But as this article points out, philanthropic advising is kind of a “Wild West,” with few standardizations or agreed-upon best-practices.

    However, that might be a good thing. We have seen how toxic many of the “best practices” we’ve entrenched in fundraising over the past few decades have been, such as treating donors like heroes and shielding them from difficult conversations about the inequitable origins of wealth. Maybe during philanthropic advising’s nascent stage, we can prevent some of these pitfalls before they gain too much ground.

    One of these pitfalls I see is philanthropic advisors adopting a “facilitative” stance to their work, where they believe their job is just to be a neutral party that’s there to help the wealthy give out money, but they themselves don’t really push an agenda or encourage donors to give to one issue over another. They are just a vehicle connecting donors to what the donors care about.

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  • GoFundMe and the much scarier stuff behind many of the technologies we use daily

    GoFundMe and the much scarier stuff behind many of the technologies we use daily

    Hi everyone, this week is Halloween, which is probably my favorite holiday, mainly because I like the easy access to junk food everywhere I go. If you’re on Instagram, check out my “Scary Nonprofit Stories,” including the one about the meeting that begun with a never-ending round of introductions.  

    While we scare ourselves for fun this week, there are some seriously scary things out there that we do need to think about. This week, I want to talk about the awfulness that’s going on in the tech world.

    I’m sure you’ve probably heard of the GoFundMe fiasco, where GFM decided to automatically create pages on its platform for 1.4million nonprofits, without asking for any of these orgs’ consent, and with setting the default tip to GFM at 16.5% for each donation. Of course, this has been causing outrage across the sector.

    For its mistake, GoFundMe has issued an apology and reversed its decision, making it opt-in for nonprofits to have a page on its site.

    While we’re focused on tech malfeasance, though, there are far more awful and evil issues we need to pay attention to and act on the way we have been with GoFundMe.

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  • Scary Nonprofit Stories to Tell in the Dark 2025

    Scary Nonprofit Stories to Tell in the Dark 2025

    Hi everyone, Halloween is coming up next week, which means it’s time for the annual scary stories. These are terrifying tales that are guaranteed to send chills up your spine. Gather your coworkers and read these stories together, because I don’t recommend you read them alone. Add your scary stories in the comment section.

    100 MORE YEARS

    The gala was well attended. It was a Poe-themed event in celebration of a hundred years of service, and attendees wore elaborate ball gowns and coats and tails, their faces half-obscured by intricate raven masks. The air was light and joyful, and food and drinks were plentiful.

    Suddenly the music died down and a hush fell over the room, the space darkened by tall vermilion curtains cinched with golden ropes. A dashing man, the board chair, stood at the ornate lectern, the spotlight framing his salt-and-pepper hair and refined features.

    “It has been 100 years since our founding,” he said, holding a silver chalice of red wine, “and during this time, we have fed the hungry, found clothes for the cold, shelter for the homeless. We have served thousands.”

    He raised the chalice. “To 100 more years!” he said, and the crowd raised their glasses and applauded, the feathers of their masks shaking softly, stirring the air.

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  • Funders, stop requiring line-item budget reports and variance explanations

    Funders, stop requiring line-item budget reports and variance explanations

    Hi everyone. Halloween is coming up, which means it’s time for scary stories. Grab a stuffie and wrap yourself in a blanket as I tell a terrifying tale that will leave you with chills down your spine. This one is extra scary because it’s true; I didn’t make it up.

    There was a nonprofit that provided vital services to the community, especially to communities that have been historically disenfranchised. It received a small grant from a foundation. But every year, it must report on its expenses to this funder, and if any line item varied 10% of more, it must provide a written explanation for why. “Last year, I had estimated our postage expense to be $250,” whispered the ED, “but we spent $277, and that was just one of the many line items we had to explain.”

    Year after year, this nonprofit had to do this. And it wasn’t the only one. Across the sector, thousands of nonprofits must do this all the time…

    BOO!!!

    Of all the crappy funding practices funders sometimes pull, requiring nonprofits to justify line items variances on their financial reports is one of the most archaic, inane, insipid, ludicrous, and banal of them all. AND IT’S TIME FOR ALL FUNDERS TO STOP DOING IT. Here are several reasons why:

    You are wasting everyone’s time and energy: Millions of hours in our sector are wasted annually on these tedious reports. I remember spending three days tearing out my hair one time because a funder wanted to know how much of each line item we spent, and to explain any variances greater than 10%, but for information pertaining to their own fiscal year, which ended in December. My org’s fiscal year ended in June.

    You’re telling your partners you don’t trust them: If you trust them, why do they need to explain why they spent 12% less than budgeted on something? Who cares? And if you do, why? By requiring grantees to provide this level of financial detail, you’re telling them you have no confidence they know what they’re doing, and you’re suspicious that they’re possibly mismanaging funds or committing fraud. It’s very patriarchal and insulting. And also a completely ineffective way to detect mismanaged funds or fraud.  

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  • Let’s reclaim our vision for the amazing society we can build from the ashes

    Let’s reclaim our vision for the amazing society we can build from the ashes

    Hi everyone, I’ve been stress-eating chocolate, so I’m not sure how coherent this post will be. Besides the general state of the world, I also have my book launching next week with an in-person event in Seattle, the logistics have been bringing up gala-related trauma from my previous years as an executive director.

    A few weeks ago I was talking to Jacqueline Ebanks, President and CEO of Nonprofit New York, planning for my keynote at their conference on November 12th. We were discussing challenges preventing our sector from reaching its full potential, and I mentioned our sector and liberals-in-generals’ suppressed imagination and lack of vision. “You know who do have a clear vision?” she said, “the tech billionaires.”

    She’s right. These dudes have some terrifying visions for our world. Mark Zuckerberg, for example, envisions a world where artificial intelligence provides basic and vital human connections. We’d have AI chat bots for friends and even therapists, in part to address the loneliness epidemic.

    Oracle’s CEO Larry Ellison, meanwhile, waxes about an Orwellian future with “citizens on their best behavior” because technology will be surveilling their every move.

    And if that’s not chilling enough, there’s Elon Musk and his “Dark MAGA” movement which pushes for a future where there are no more democracy or elections or government, just society being ruled by tech bros. If you’re up for a horrifying glimpse into what he and his followers are working toward, Rosie the Resister lays it all out.

    We need to take these guys seriously. They have all the power and resources, and few barriers, in making their visions a reality. One of the things we, and must, do, is to provide our own vision to counter the awful ones they’re proposing. This has been challenging. I think over time, the right-wing has controlled so much of the narrative that the left has been forced into a defensive mode, where we only think about survival and protecting communities from the awfulness. We’ve been spending so much time putting out fires that we haven’t been able to dream of what we can build when we finally stop the arsonists.

    I see this in our sector. All organizations have a vision statement. Beautiful and ambitious things like a peaceful and just world where every kid is safe and there’s no more poverty or violence. But these visions run into the cold reality of financial challenges, political barriers, and white moderate tendencies of people to be “practical.” Over time, these vision statements become hollow and meaningless, something we create without believing are possible.

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  • Let’s try to be nicer to ourselves and one another while we fight against fascism

    Let’s try to be nicer to ourselves and one another while we fight against fascism

    Hi everyone, a couple of announcements. First, if you’re in Seattle, please come to the book launch event I’m having on October 14th from 6pm to 8pm at Centilia Cultural Center. Everyone is so stressed, so I want it to be a fun and community-building event. I already booked a tarot card reader, because why not? Maybe I can get a massage therapist there too. Please RSVP here. Bring reusable containers for the inevitable leftover food. (An online launch event will happen at some point too for folks who can’t attend the in-person one).

    Second, this site and its email notifications system will be hosted by Ghost starting next week, so the site will look different (and cooler!) Keeping my fingers crossed that it will be smooth sailing. Thank you to the colleagues who recommended Ghost, and to Patreon supporters for covering the increased monthly costs associated with this new and hopefully better system.

    This is a good segue to this week’s topic. A few months ago, I announced I would be transitioning this site to Substack, since WordPress has been horrible, often partially sending to my email list of subscribers, or never sending any email notifications to anyone at all. I got lots of feedback discouraging me from using Substack, as it has been platforming neo-Nazis. That was very helpful information that I hadn’t known, and once I knew about it, I did some research and decided to use Ghost instead.

    A few colleagues though were like “Argh! How could you use Substack?! Have you no shame?! I am disappointed in you! I can’t believe I have followed you for a decade only to be betrayed like this! May your fields be fallow! May your great-grandchildren be cursed with receding hairlines! May your wifi always glitch during your favorite shows and movies forever!”

    All over the internet, I’m finding people snapping at one another, sometimes over the mildest things. We’re supposed to be on the same side! I honestly can’t blame anyone. I find myself also very snappy lately, including at my kids. Last week they were goofing around and caused us to be late for school, and all my patience and coaching skills went out the window, and I ended up yelling at them. They were quiet in the car and looked crestfallen when I sent them off, the usual feisty lights in their eyes gone.

    All of us are on edge as we try to navigate this rapid collapse of democracy and the US’s slide into a totalitarian regime. I don’t recall a time, even during the early years of the pandemic, when there was this much constant and relentless stress and fear. The resulting anxiety, anger, and other negative emotions get misdirected to ourselves and the people closest to us, often without our being conscious of it. This is a tactic and goal of fascism, as a populace that is constantly on edge and emotionally dysregulated is easier to control.

    We’re in for a long fight, so let’s agree to try and be nicer to ourselves and one another, and save our anger and frustrations for those with power and privilege who are enabling the shitstorm we’re dealing with. Here are some tips, mostly for me; please take what’s useful, and add your suggestions in the comment section:

    Remember that everyone is going through things we may not see: Besides the political awfulness, it seems everyone is also enduring all sorts of other challenges. I know so many colleagues who have been laid off, or their consulting work has been on the decline. People are also facing health issues, trying to take care of aging parents, going through divorces, addiction, depression, among other things. Marginalized people have it even worse. Let’s give one another a break.

    Be aware of your emotions: The constant fight-or-flight state we’re in means we often operate automatically, including doing things we may later regret, like writing a snarky comment or yelling at our kids for throwing balled-up socks at one another instead of putting on their shoes. I’m trying to be more intentional about naming my emotions. Not just silently, but sometimes openly. Naming emotions helps keep them in check. “I’m feeling frustrated and overwhelmed right now, with a hankering for dark chocolate.”

    Try to be strategically detached: I don’t like to use the words “don’t take things personally,” because really, it’s impossible to not take things personally at some level. So I’m calling it “strategic detachment.” When I get stood up, yelled at, called a sheep in the comment section, or whatever, I try to remind myself that people are fighting battles I might not be aware of, eat some dark chocolate, and try not to let it affect me too much.

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  • Donor engagement and the retail-ification of equity and justice

    Donor engagement and the retail-ification of equity and justice

    Hi everyone, buckle up (though, at this point in the rapid collapse of civilization, I’m not sure any of us can be more buckled than we already are). Whenever I talk about donors, people get weirdly defensive and all up in their feelings, like a mama bear when someone threatens her cubs. If that’s you, please grab some fair-trade chocolate, a cup of matcha, or whatever else that soothes you before continuing.

    I grew up in Vietnam and often go back to visit. One of my favorite places is Saigon’s Bến Thành market, a giant mostly indoor market with about 1500 vendors. I took my kids there one day this summer so they could be immersed in the experience, and they were quickly overwhelmed by people shouting at and beckoning to us to buy souvenirs, dried fish, fruit, clothes, toys, hot food, and electronics. With so much competition all around, who could blame these hardworking vendors for clamoring for customers’ attention and dollars.

    In a way, this giant market was a great visual metaphor for what our sector has somehow evolved into. Over past several decades our fundraising philosophies, practices, and pedagogy (how we teach fundraising), have led to a “retailification” of our sector and thus of equity and justice.

    By that, I mean we have entrenched the capitalistic notion that every nonprofit is like a retail shop selling specific causes, goals, and even emotions, and donors and funders are their customers. This retailification manifests in several ways, including:

    • The constant striving to ensure donors have excellent “customer service” through personalized touches such as thank-you notes and calls, invitations to special events (usually involving wine), and so on.
    • The pervasive environment of competitiveness. Here it seems even worse than in retail, as nonprofits are not just competing with those with similar missions, but with organizations with completely different missions and even geographic locations.
    • The use of marketing tactics like pulling on heartstrings, donor walls, and linking dollars donated to direct impact, such as “$100 dollars provides ten kids with lunches for a week.”

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